The Green-Eyed Monster

9 Jan

Jealousy. Envy. Grudgingness {yes, it’s a word :)}.

I don’t like those words. Do you?

None of us want to feel these emotions, but I’m certain we all do from time to time. Maybe even more often than that, if we are honest with ourselves.

I recently pinned this on Pinterest:


{image source: Jessica & Sarah at Pretty Providence}

Hmmm…. True, isn’t it?

Within minutes of pinning this, I noticed it had been repinned more than 30 times. Obviously, those words struck a chord with a few other people, too. None of us like to admit that we feel it, but the truth is we do.

  • We are jealous of our neighbor’s house, boat, car, etc.
  • We resent our co-worker’s personality, promotion, position, etc.
  • We are envious of our friend’s hair, figure, clothes, etc.

We don’t always verbalize these feelings, but they are there quietly planting seeds of bitterness in our hearts. For many of us, our jealous feelings may be such a part of our nature that we don’t even recognize it for what it is: destructive.

The root of jealousy is the belief that we deserve more than what we have and that what we have is not good enough. It’s a selfish emotion fueled by our desire to be known, loved, admired, and respected.

We aren’t the first to ever experience these emotions. Remember Cain and Abel? Jealous brothers. We definitely won’t be the last to begrudge another, but there are things we can do to limit envy’s damaging effects.

How do we combat jealousy? Be grateful. It’s that easy and that hard.

Because jealousy is basically a lack of appreciation for what God has blessed us with, the antidote to jealousy would be gratitude. Be grateful for the little and big things in your life. Sometimes we have no trouble thanking God for major events – bringing a loved one through surgery or the birth of a child – but we overlook the many other blessings we receive each day. A phone call from a friend, a few minutes of warm sunshine after days of cold rain, the sound of a newborn puppy as he learns to walk. These are all blessings.

Even the hard things can be blessings if we choose to view them that way. Having cancer is hard, but I would be flat out lying if I said my life has not also been blessed through this experience. What’s your hard thing? What trial are you going through that has the potential to be a blessing in your life.

From the fullness of His grace
we have all received one blessing after another.
John 1:16

Be sure to come back tomorrow and I’ll talk about another way I think we can put the green-eyed monster in its place. This one is tougher than being grateful, but I think you are up for the challenge!



3 Responses to “The Green-Eyed Monster”

  1. rgugino January 9, 2013 at 10:14 am #

    So true . Thank you

  2. Facing Cancer Together January 10, 2013 at 12:30 pm #

    It’s a bang-on image. I can see why it was shared so much on Pinterest. Counting our blessing ties so well into gratitude, and personally, I find it useful to write down and celebrate the little win. That way we can focus on our own journey instead of envying someone else. ~Catherine

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: