What Being Positive Does Not Mean

30 May

Being positive does not come naturally to me.  It’s something I have to put thought and effort into and I’m not always successful at it.  My mind tends to drift toward the negative, toward the critical.

Can you relate?

When we are confronted by a cancer diagnosis (or another negative life-changing event), it becomes even more challenging – yet all the more crucial – to be positive, optimistic, and hopeful.  Our minds play a huge role in our health and well-being.  In my opinion, approaching a cancer diagnosis with a negative outlook will only make the battle that much more difficult.

Positive thinking must always be rooted in what God says about you, not in what you say about yourself. – Charles Stanley

Being positive means we try to look for the best in each situation.  Being positive means we give others the benefit of the doubt.  For me, being positive also means I believe God has a plan for my life and I accept that He can bring something good out of even the worst situations.

That being said, I think it is important to recognize and acknowledge what being positive does not mean.

1.  Being positive does not mean life will be perfect.  If we hope for this or strive to achieve it, we will only be disappointed.  If we focus on our relationship with God and not on having what we think is a perfect life, we will find it much easier to be positive.  The truth is there is no such thing as perfection this side of heaven so trying to attain it is futile.  What life can be is great, wonderful, good, fantastic, fulfilling, and blessed.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. – Matthew 5:6

2.  Being positive does not mean we will never have troubles.  In fact, we know that we will have difficulties in our lifetime, so it’s naive to think that we will not.  The key is to face our challenges with a determination to make the best of any unpleasant situation.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33

3.  Being positive does not mean we should never be upset, sad or down.  Sadness, grief, and even anger are a part of life that cannot be avoided.  Accept the bad, experience the emotions that come with it, but don’t let it hold you down in the pit for long.  Don’t let it change who you are.

There are a lot of things we cannot control, but we do have control of our attitude.  Life is hard, there is no doubt about that.  Our challenge is to make the very best of it.  We have a choice.  We can choose to be positive and try to enhance the lives of those around us with our good attitude or we can wallow in negativity and allow our sour attitude to invade the lives of those we come in contact with each day.

Have a superb day!
♥ Rachel


3 Responses to “What Being Positive Does Not Mean”

  1. Laura Allen May 30, 2012 at 3:21 pm #

    Rachel, I don’t think being positive is natural for anyone, it is a decision to make that choice just as we choose faith, hope, or even love. You have been a great role model ; look at your title Blessings in Disguise, that said proves you are indeed looking for the blessings(nuggets in a vast treasure trove) that God has set out for those willing to stand and keep walking out of our temporary trials or storms. Keep it up, you are great. ALWAYS HOPE, Laura

    • rachturner May 31, 2012 at 8:56 am #

      I think you’re right, Laura. Most of us are “wired” toward negativity. Thank you for your sweet words!

  2. SomeKernelsOfTruth August 14, 2014 at 3:21 am #

    Thank you for this. I just came across this post in a Google search during a moment of worry and I so needed this right now.

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