Negative Nelly: The Mother of Constance the Complainer [Video]

17 May

My apologies to anyone reading this who might be named Nelly or Constance.  :)

In keeping with yesterday’s discussion about complaining, I would be remiss to not mention negativity and its horrible, no-good, very bad influence on us and our propensity to complain.  Negativity is the mama who gives birth to the complaining child.  When our thoughts are focused on negative things, it is virtually impossible not to complain.

When it comes to negative behavior, there are two areas we have to focus on: 1) ourselves and 2) those around us who influence us with their negativity.  One area you have complete control over; the other not as much – however, there is something you can do to minimize someone’s negative influence on your life.

Let’s say you are making good progress on thinking positive and looking on the bright side of things.  You have armed yourself with great scripture references to pull your mind back from the pit when it starts to stay into the danger zone and you are practicing good positive mental and physical habits.  You have positive quotes plastered all over your office to keep you motivated and focused on good thoughts.

But.  There is someone in your life who is perpetually negative.  You know who they are!  :)  Their meal is never quite right, their coworkers are always doing stupid things, their spouse is always making mistakes, their children are frequently creating problems, and their friends continually disappoint them.  Nothing is ever good enough for them.  Bless their heart, they don’t even know how truly negative they are.

What do you do?  How do you eliminate – or at least limit – their negative influence in your life?  If that person is you, how do you turn the bus around and stop yourself from drowning in misery?

John Maxwell is a phenomenal speaker, teacher, motivator, and leadership guru.  He has a gift for seeing the obvious and translating it into actions we can take to improve ourselves personally, professionally, and spiritually.  One thing he does is publish a Minute with Maxwell podcast every day.  On a recent one, he talked about Negativity and offers a great suggestion for dealing with negative people.

Isn’t that fantastic?? :) What do you think?  Want to try this next time someone comes up to you and begins to spill negativity all over your rainbow? I think it could work. It might not stop them from being negative, but they won’t be negative around you anymore. They might tell everyone they know that you’re crazy, but hey – that’s a small price to pay for a little positive peace.

Happy Thursday, guys!  Make it a positive one!!
♥ Rachel

9 Responses to “Negative Nelly: The Mother of Constance the Complainer [Video]”

  1. The Savvy Sister May 17, 2012 at 7:51 am #

    Great reminder that we are in control of your own positivity. Our mind registers our own reality and we control our mind, so we can choose to be positive. I can’t help but feel sorry for negative people because they haven’t learned how to take responsibility for their own situation.
    (When I read you title I really thought for sure a video of Saturday Night Live skit “Debbie Downer” was going to be on :)…so funny if you’ve never seen it!

    • rachturner May 17, 2012 at 8:17 am #

      Oh my gosh, Susan — I just watched it – that is hysterical!!

  2. Laura Allen May 17, 2012 at 8:30 am #

    Rachael, I try to limit a lot of negative people in my life, but can’t entirely everyone. It is one thing if there is an actual reason but totally not acceptable if they are trying to use you as a garbage dump to spew all that nasty stuff out of their mouth without effort to try at least to pull themselves out of that pit. Those type of people are more than happy to live in that place of unhappiness and expect everyone should love to take up residency with them. I usually will smile and say that life is great and GOD IS SO GOOD, and find my exit as bewilderment sets in that I didn’t take their bait. ALWAYS HOPE, Laura

    • rachturner May 17, 2012 at 8:33 am #

      Always Hope. I love the way you end your comments, Laura. There is always hope because our God is good, indeed!

      • Laura Allen May 17, 2012 at 8:11 pm #

        Rachel, That has become a sort of trademark for me, but it is from Hebrews 11:1 Now Faith is the substance of things Hoped for:……… so I end all encouragement messages for those going through difficult situations and GOD uses our hope to build faith upon until it becomes that unmoveable, unshakeable substance. ALWAYS HOPE, Laura

      • rachturner May 17, 2012 at 8:38 pm #

        I LOVE Hebrews 11:1, Laura. :)

  3. Cara Olsen May 17, 2012 at 1:04 pm #

    LOL! You know . . . I read what you had to say before watching, so I knew “something” was coming, but I didn’t expect that. Pretty funny! Not sure how my mother would feel if I stuck my fingers in my ears when she starts to complain. Probably as if I had regressed back to my younger years.

    Thanks for sharing, Rachel! ;-)

    • rachturner May 17, 2012 at 7:25 pm #

      Cara – Be sute to let me know how it goes if you stick your fingers in your ears the next time your mom starts complaining! :)

      • Cara Olsen May 18, 2012 at 1:26 pm #

        LOL! Oh, you can bet I will, Rachel. :)

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