Blessings in Disguise. Really??

27 Jan

UsingEnglish.com offers this definition: If some bad luck or misfortune ultimately results in something positive, it’s a blessing in disguise.

A fellow cancer patient and new friend wrote a blog post last week stating that she didn’t quite get the whole blessings in disguise thing.  She’s heard it mentioned in various places, but just didn’t quite understand if they were blessings, why do they have to be disguised.  Good question, no?  Why can’t we just receive blessings, no strings attached or trials involved?

She certainly doesn’t feel like her cancer is a blessing at all and who can blame her!  Fearing for your life, chemo that makes you very sick, losing your hair – none of those things remotely resemble what any of us would consider blessings at all.

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This was my response to her:

I don’t think the cancer, itself, is a blessing, but my experience has been that I have received many blessings because of having cancer. Many of these blessings are things I would have never experienced were it not for having cancer such as the love and care of friends, the fresh eyes that I am now seeing my life through, and the way the diagnosis has created an even stronger bond between my husband and myself. The cancer is mean, harsh, and destructive, but I am determined that it will not drag me down to its level. I’m trying hard to focus on the best parts of it and think as little as possible about the negative side. I think the blessings aspect of having cancer is easier to accept the farther away we get from diagnosis. On day one, there was too much shock, too much fear and too many tears to even think about blessings. Nine months into this, I’m able to have a better perspective on the whole thing. Hope you are doing well today and feeling strong!

I can see where she’s coming from because we tend to think (and would LOVE for) blessings to be awesome, wonderful, and all full of happiness and light.  But that’s not necessarily going to the be the case all the time.  We may receive straight out blessings in our lives that did not require us to go through a any sort of trial before hand, but there are definitely going to be trials, struggles, hardships, and turmoil that may ultimately result in blessings.

Whether we have cancer or not, I think it has a lot to do with perspective because God is placing blessings in our path – we just have to recognize them for what they are.  And sometimes – often in fact – they are not always recognizable as such until after the fact.

Cancer itself is not a blessing, it’s a nasty disease that robs people of everything from their hair to their dignity and sometimes, ultimately, their life on earth.  So, no, cancer is not a blessing.  But because of cancer, I have been blessed in more ways than I can count, but here are some of the biggies:

  1. My love and respect for my husband has been multiplied by 1,000 as I watch him love and care for me through this.
  2. I see life through different eyes.  Not bitter eyes, but grateful eyes.  Every moment with family, every sunrise, even every tiny daily annoyance is a gift to be appreciated.
  3. Cancer is a motivator.  It is propelling me to do and try some things I would have never done or tried before (like blogging for one).
  4. People have reached out to me, shared their hearts with me, and shown me how much they love me because of cancer.  WHAT a gift – and a blessing – that has been.

Whether your trial is cancer or illness, a job loss, a house that won’t sell, a rebellious child, or an annoying co-worker, I hope that you will take some time to step back and look for some of the blessings that may be hidden in these difficulties.  Be open to receiving them.  You may be surprised what you find!

Love you all.  Have a wonderful weekend!!
♥ Rachel

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4 Responses to “Blessings in Disguise. Really??”

  1. Linda at Beautiful Ideas January 28, 2012 at 10:55 am #

    Hi Rachel,

    Just doing some blog hopping this morning and found you on my rounds. Lol I hope you are having tons of great days and am sending you beautiful thoughts and best wishes on your journey back to good health. I have just returned to work FT from medical leave recovering from treatments for breast cancer.

    Well, I’m off to do some errands on this snowy Saturday morning here, but I’ll be back to spend some time with you. I enjoy your blog very much. You are most welcome to visit me at my on-line home any time…

    Wishing you a beautiful day,
    Linda at Beautiful Ideas

    • rachturner February 1, 2012 at 8:43 pm #

      Linda – Thank you so much for stopping by and saying hello! Congratulations on returning to work full time after treatment!! That is great news and I know it feels good to return some normalcy to your life. Best wishes for continued good health!!

  2. Robin February 1, 2012 at 9:06 pm #

    I agree with you wholeheartedly. Cancer itself is terrible, but the circumstances surrounding it can sometimes be surprising. I think it’s brought out the best in me and some others, and I’ve learned so many lessons that would have probably taken me years otherwise. I wouldn’t have chosen this, but I chalk it all up to experience.

    • rachturner February 3, 2012 at 8:30 pm #

      Robin – I hope you are doing great these days!! It’s so true – they are tough lessons to learn, and cancer is a mean teacher, but we are learning things we probably wouldn’t learn otherwise.

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