I still feel sleep-deprived, but this week has been very hectic with little chance to get a regular amount of sleep, much less any extra. I shouldn’t feel so comforted by the fact that all of you are suffering from a lack of sleep, but it really does make me feel better to know I am not alone! :) Maybe we can all catch up this weekend and start next week fresh as daisies!
Do you think resilience is a type of personality trait or characteristic you are born with or is it something you can develop?
I think it’s something you can develop, although I do think some people are more prone to being resilient than others possibly because of their upbringing or things they observed and learned as a child. No matter what, I believe that anyone has the power to be resilient – especially if you are a Christian and believe in the power of God to restore you mentally, physically, and spiritually after major (or even minor) setbacks.
Resilience is defined as “the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched.” Dictionary.com also explains it as the ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like.”
If cancer patients don’t have a need for resilience, I don’t know who does. We’ve been bent, compressed, and stretched about as far as we can go. One minute you are cruising right along. Life is good. Your job is going great. Your family life is sweet. You’re happy and content. And then, out of no where, you get the call. Something’s not quite right. We need to look closer. And before you know it, the rug is yanked out from under you and you are lying flat on your back looking at the world from a completely different angle. Things are so different that you wonder if things will ever be the same.
Being resilient, having a positive mindset that pushes you to restore yourself to health and life is absolutely crucial for cancer patients.
My dad has a saying whenever something happens – a mistake, a big problem, a bit of a crisis. He’ll say, “it’s a small setback in a big operation.” I can’t remember how many times I heard that growing up, and still hear it from him. He never means it to diminish the experience or belittle what I’m feeling. What he means is that it’s a setback and it needs to be viewed as such.
A setback is not a permanent condition. It is a pause, a step backwards from the direction we were headed. But there is nothing that says we have to stay there.
I think there’s such truth in that wisdom. I’m not saying that cancer is a minor setback, because it can feel HUGE and it is HUGE. But if we allow it to hold us back from recovering and rebounding to the person we were before (or possibly even becoming better than the person we were before!), we are selling ourselves short.
Maybe we need to think of cancer as a minor setback, a bump in the road in an otherwise fabulous life? If we believe that we will always be the way we are during treatment, that we will never feel better, that we will always have the “C” hanging over our heads, then we will not be resilient. We will hold ourselves back from the life that is waiting for us. It may not be the same life that we left months ago, but it can be a good life.
This can be challenging for those of us who are not “cured,” who do not receive a definitive, “you are cancer free” from our doctors, but I think it’s important all the same. Once we finish our primary treatment and return to some sense of normalcy, if we continue to allow cancer to invade our thoughts and distract us from the beauty that is all around us, we will be missing out. And we certainly don’t want to miss out because as cancer patients, if we’ve learned anything, it’s that life is precious and we must savor every second of it.
Here’s to a Terrific Thursday for each and every one of you!